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Couples deck · 30 cards

Vulnerable questions to ask your partner

Dare to share your deeper fears and insecurities.

How to play

Every card in the pile

  1. 01What's a belief about yourself that you're trying to change?
  2. 02What's something you've been afraid to tell me?
  3. 03What's something you're ashamed of that you've never shared?
  4. 04What's a way I've hurt you that we haven't fully talked through?
  5. 05What makes it hard for you to ask for help?
  6. 06What are you scared to lose, about yourself or about us?
  7. 07What's a fear about intimacy that holds you back sometimes?
  8. 08When have you felt truly alone?
  9. 09When was the last time you cried, and what was it about?
  10. 10What's a wound from your past that still hurts sometimes?
  11. 11What past experience still affects how you approach relationships?
  12. 12What's a regret that still weighs on you?
  13. 13What's something you're working through that I can support you with?
  14. 14What's something you're afraid I might judge you for?
  15. 15What's the hardest thing you've ever had to tell someone?
  16. 16When have you felt rejected, and how does it still show up?
  17. 17What's the scariest thing about being truly seen by someone?
  18. 18What's something you need me to know about your emotional needs?
  19. 19What do you wish I understood better about you?
  20. 20What's something you need reassurance about from me?
  21. 21What's your biggest fear about our relationship?
  22. 22What's a dream you gave up on that you still think about?
  23. 23What's something you feel guilty about that you shouldn't?
  24. 24What do you do when you feel unloved, and what would help?
  25. 25What's an insecurity you struggle with that I might not know about?
  26. 26When do you feel most vulnerable with me?
  27. 27When do you feel most misunderstood?
  28. 28What's a part of yourself you're still learning to accept?
  29. 29What did love look like in the home you grew up in?
  30. 30What's something you find hard to forgive yourself for?

How to use them

Read one out loud and let everyone answer before the next. Or start a game: Candor deals the pile at random, and a room code puts the same card on every phone.