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Couples deck · 30 cards

Hard questions for couples to talk through

Tackle the tough topics with honesty and care.

How to play

Every card in the pile

  1. 01What's something I could do differently that would help our relationship?
  2. 02Are we on the same page about what commitment means to us?
  3. 03Is there something you've been wanting to talk about but haven't found the right time?
  4. 04What's something you need from me that you haven't asked for?
  5. 05How do you feel about our social life: too busy, too quiet, or about right?
  6. 06What's something that bothers you that you've been holding back from saying?
  7. 07What's a habit of mine that frustrates you that we haven't addressed?
  8. 08How do you feel about the balance of responsibilities in our relationship?
  9. 09What's an unspoken expectation you have of me that we should discuss?
  10. 10Is there something about jealousy or trust we should talk through?
  11. 11How do you feel about how we use our phones when we're together?
  12. 12What's something you wish we handled differently when we argue?
  13. 13What's a sacrifice you've made for us that you wish I acknowledged more?
  14. 14What's a pattern in our relationship that concerns you?
  15. 15Is there anything you feel you need to apologize for?
  16. 16How do you prefer to resolve conflicts when we disagree?
  17. 17Is there something from my past that you'd like to understand better?
  18. 18How can we create a safer space for having tough conversations?
  19. 19What topic do you find hardest to talk about with me, and why?
  20. 20What's a fear you have about our future that we should address?
  21. 21How do you feel about the role our families play in our relationship?
  22. 22What do you need from me after an argument to feel okay again?
  23. 23What's a compromise you feel you've made that we should revisit?
  24. 24How can I better support you during difficult times?
  25. 25Is there something you need to forgive me for that still lingers?
  26. 26How do you feel about the amount of time we spend together versus apart?
  27. 27How do you feel about how we handle money as a couple?
  28. 28Is there something about our physical intimacy we should talk about?
  29. 29Is there something in my past relationships that concerns you?
  30. 30Is there a boundary you feel hasn't been respected?

How to use them

Read one out loud and let everyone answer before the next. Or start a game: Candor deals the pile at random, and a room code puts the same card on every phone.